Secret To Happiness

The Secret To Happiness That Successful People Know

In Happiness by Kate J Parker

Let me tell you a secret to happiness that successful people know. Abundance is a state of mind. You can choose to have a life full of abundance.

There are two ways we can view life. We can be victims to life and view the world through a lens of ‘lack’ or ‘not enough’. Or we can be creators in our own lives and view the world through a lens of ‘abundance’ and ‘prosperity’.

If you choose the belief that ‘there is not enough’; that is how you will experience life. You will approach every situation with a negative attitude and expect that something will be wrong. You will continuously attract situations where you are struggling and unhappy.

If you choose the belief that you are abundant; that is how you will experience life. You will see the positive in every situation and feel abundant in all parts of your life. This attitude is self-fulfilling and you will attract prosperity and positivity with everything you do.

I used to believe there was never enough. The stories I created were founded from lack beliefs:

‘Lack of money’. I was always broke.
‘Lack of time’. I never had enough time to do the things I enjoyed.
‘Lack of affection’. I never received enough affection from my husband.
‘Lack of respect’. I felt I wasn’t respected enough at work.
‘Lack of opportunity’. I never had a chance to fulfil my desires.

In believing these stories, I attracted situations that reflected my lack beliefs. These situations then strengthened my beliefs that there was never enough. It was a viscous circle of my beliefs and external reality strengthening each other.

It was a viscous circle of my beliefs and external reality strengthening each other.

Fast forward five years and my life is abundant and fulfilling. Nothing major has changed externally, however internally I have had a dramatic change on my outlook towards life.

Now:

I have plenty of money for what I need
Have all the time I need to do what I enjoy
Receive an abundance of affection from my husband, kids, family and friends
Receive respect from people all over the world who respond to my writing
Have limitless opportunities. I can create whatever inspires me.

Below are the secret to happiness in six simple steps:

1. I ACKNOWLEDGE I AM SURROUNDED BY ABUNDANCE

One day I walked into my local shopping centre and noticed abundance everywhere. No matter where I looked there was food, clothes, shoes, entertainment, anything I could want! It suddenly dawned on me that I am surrounded by abundance.

I realised that I didn’t need to own something to feel satisfied. For example, if I like the look of a car, I can enjoy looking at one as it drives by. I don’t need to own it to feel good about it.

Later, I noticed the beauty of a majestic tree. I became aware of the abundance in nature: the fresh vegetables growing in my garden, the trees that provide shade, the ocean that cools me down on a hot day. Once again, I don’t need to own nature to feel it’s abundance.

As the weeks passed and I continued to explore this epiphany, I noticed a change in myself. I no longer desired material possessions as much. I used to go to the shops just to look around. I found window shopping and desiring things a pleasurable experience.

Now that just seems silly. Why would I want to waste my time looking at things I don’t need and that won’t make me a better person for owning? Now I only go shopping when I need to buy something.

This appreciation of the abundance around me was life altering. I now teach my daughter that she doesn’t need to own things to appreciate them. For example, If she sees a flower she likes, I encourage her to look and enjoy, without picking it. The act of picking a flower is her way of taking ownership. She doesn’t need to own the flower to feel its beauty.

2. IF I WANT MORE OF SOMETHING, I GIVE IT AWAY FIRST

I was seeking more affection from my husband and was feeling annoyed that he didn’t automatically give me what I needed. Because I was feeling annoyed, I would then withdraw my affection towards him.

I soon realised how silly this was. If I wanted more affection in my relationship, I had to give it first. Once I opened up and gave affection, I started receiving more.

Next I experimented with money, my time, recognition and appreciation. Whatever I gave away, came back to me magnified. The trick is to do it with an open heart and without apprehension, expectation or fear.

3. INSTEAD OF CHASING WHAT I WANTED, I LET IT CHASE ME

I use this metaphorically (I don’t really think that things are physically chasing me!).

Previously when I wanted something, I put myself in a needy position. I would make myself a victim, reeking of desperation.

Now when I desire something in my life, I imagine it desperately chasing me.I then open myself up to receiving it.

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4. I CHANGED MY BELIEFS

Your beliefs will impact significantly on your thought processes and perceptions. You may be aware of some of your beliefs. For example, the belief that ‘there is never enough’ is a common one that many people carry and keeps us stuck in situations where we struggle.

I use affirmations daily to re-program my lack beliefs. My favourite affirmations are:

I am grateful for the abundance in my life
I have what I need when I need it
I am surrounded by abundance and prosperity
I deserve abundance and prosperity
There is always plenty
I live an abundant life

5. I STOPPED LABELLING EVENTS AS GOOD OR BAD

It is natural to label circumstances, events and occurrences as good or bad. However, things can’t be good or bad – they are just things that happen. It is our mind that is judging the experience by viewing through a lack belief or an abundance belief.

When things happen in my life, I try not to label them. Instead I just accept the current moment as it is. When I experience an unpleasant situation, I use it as a learning experience instead of creating new lack beliefs.

6. I RECEIVE WITH GRACE

I acknowledge and appreciate everything that is in my life, and comes into my life. By showing gratitude, I am opening myself up to receive more. Most importantly, I notice the abundance already around me.

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By making these six small changes, I was able to transform my life from one of unrequited wants, to a life full of abundance, prosperity and happiness. I uncovered the secret to happiness.

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